Momwe mungakhalire hule munthawi yochepa yamwamuna

Monga momwe ziwonetsero zikuwonetsera, ngati mkazi ali wozizira ndipo samvera chisoni, chidwi chamwamunayo mwa iye chimakulirakulira ndipo pali chidwi chofuna kumudziwa bwino kwambiri momwe angathere. Ngati mukufuna kulowa nawo mgwirizano wa azimayi oterewa, onani malangizo athu momwe mungakhalire osasuma nthawi yomweyo.

Mosakayikira, nthawi zina izi zimadzetsa chisoni. Udindo wa hule umafuna mphamvu zambiri. Pa nthawi imodzimodziyo, mtsikana yemwe ali ndi khalidwe labwino, wofatsa komanso wachikondi nthawi zina amafuna kukhala yekha. Ngati mukufuna kupambana chikondi, ulemu ndi chidwi, muyenera kuiwala kwakanthawi zazikhalidwe zabwinozi.

Izi sizitanthauza kuti kuyambira mphindi yoyamba ndikofunikira kukhala wopanda tanthauzo ndikuwononga misempha yamunthu. Kupanda kutero, simudzawonetsa mbali yanu yabwino. Kodi umakhala bwanji hule? Momwe mungakwaniritsire cholingacho munthawi yochepa kwambiri?

Malamulo ndi psychology

• Sinthani kupitilira kuzindikira kuti ndinu munthu wodziwa bwino ntchitoyo. Njira yachiwiri ndiyabwino kwambiri, chifukwa ikuphunzitsani kusintha maski ndikudziwonetsera nokha kwa amuna ochokera mbali yatsopano. Zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti mnyamatayo atanthauzire mwambi wanu.
• Msungwana aliyense ndi wochita sewero lapamwamba pamtima. Kuyambira ali mwana, azimayi amawona maubale ngati mtundu wamasewera momwe amafunikira kuti azilimbikitsa chidwi cha munthu wawo, ndipo pofuna chidwi ayenera kugwiritsa ntchito zidule zamtundu uliwonse. Ubwino waukulu wa mayiyo ndi chigoba.
• Chimbalangondo ndi mkazi yemwe amatha kuganiza m'mwazi wozizira. Samalani kwambiri pakukula kwamalingaliro omveka. Mwanjira zonse, khalani ndi chikhalidwe cholimba. Nthawi zonse gwiritsani ntchito mawonekedwe anu, pangani maluso olumikizirana, gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yanu pantchito yanu ndi chitukuko chonse.
• Luntha ndi luntha ndizosiyana. Mothandizidwa ndi luntha, mudzawoneka ngati wokonda kucheza, ndipo luntha limawerengedwa kuti ndi chizindikiro choganizira mozama.
• Musaope kulakwitsa. Ngakhale kulephera kumabweretsa chidziwitso. Pezani ziganizo pa chochitika chilichonse. Njira iyi ikuthandizani kumvetsetsa moyo weniweni.
• Bitch amatanthauza kuwuma kwina, nthawi zina nkhanza. Ndikofunikira kuchitira nkhanza anthu ovuta kwambiri. Amuna samakonda pomwe malingaliro awo amachitiridwa motere. Momwemo, phunzirani kukana, kupereka malingaliro, kulimbikitsa, ndikuchita nthawi yoyenera.
• Bule ndi munthu yemwe amatha kuumirira pawokha. Ngati ndiwe mtsikana wosagwirizana, wofewa komanso womvera, uyenera kudzilimbitsa. Dona aliyense ayenera kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi. Mkazi ayenera kukhala wofunitsitsa kuteteza zomwe amakonda. Izi sizitanthauza kuti kuti mukwaniritse cholingacho, muyenera kuwononga ubale ndi anthu. Ndikupangira kuchita mwanzeru, osakulitsa gulu lankhondo. Nthawi zina pa izi muyenera kukhala achifundo ndikupatuka pa pulaniyo.
• Mzimayi wodalirika yekha ndi amene amatha kukhala hule weniweni munthawi yochepa. Tsoka ilo, dziko lapansi silikhala lopanda anthu ansanje. Anthu ansanje amafuna kuchititsa manyazi munthu yemwe ali ndi mikhalidwe yomwe akufuna. Komanso, ambiri aiwo amayesetsa kuti asayime. Phunzirani kupitirira ndikunyalanyaza miseche. Iyi ndiye mphamvu yanu.
• Musaope malingaliro a anthu. Mosakayikira, zimatha kupweteka kapena kukhumudwitsa kwambiri. Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti mawonekedwe omwe asinthidwa amakhudza kulumikizana. Wina angachite izi posamvetsetsa, ena avomereza zosinthazo. Ndikofunikira kuti abambo azikonda kulumikizana ndi atsikana anzeru komanso olimba, ndipo amayesetsa kuti asazindikire kuwuma kwa chithandizo chawo.

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Mfundo ina imodzi. Kumbukirani kuti hule ndiudindo wanu ngati munthu wopanda nzeru chifukwa chongoyerekeza. Poyamba, zidzakhala zopindulitsa ndikukopa chidwi. Koma pamene mwamuna adziphatika, mudzakhala wokongola komanso wosangalatsa mnyamata, onetsetsani kuti mukuwonetsa ukazi wanu wonse.

Chifukwa chiyani amaluma ngati amuna

Ubale pakati pa mkazi ndi mwamuna umafanana kwambiri ndi kusakaniza kwa zosakaniza, kuphatikiza komwe sikubweretsa zotsatira zomwe zikuyembekezeredwa nthawi zonse. Umunthu sunapange njira yachilengedwe yamaubwenzi osangalala, kupatula mfundo zina zomwe zimakhala theka la anthu achikulire. Mwa iwo pali malingaliro ofala akuti amuna amakonda kukwapulidwa. Tiyeni tiwone chifukwa chake amuna amakonda kulumidwa.

Malinga ndi bukuli, hule weniweni ndi mkazi wonyoza komanso wokwiya. Koma tanthauzo ili silikugwirizana kwathunthu ndi lingaliro lamakono.

Chithunzi cha hule chasintha kwambiri mzaka zaposachedwa, chifukwa cha atolankhani, TV komanso intaneti. M'masiku amakono, hule ndi mkazi wabizinesi wochita bwino wodziyimira pawokha yemwe amakwaniritsa cholinga chake mwa njira iliyonse ndipo samalekerera kupanda ulemu.

Gwirizanani, chithunzi chabwino kwambiri, ngati simukumbukira kuti nthawi zambiri, kusungulumwa kumakhala ndi kusungulumwa? Sizosadabwitsa, chifukwa si amuna onse amakonda kukhala mumthunzi wa dona. Ngakhale zovuta zaubwenzi, abambo amalota zaubwenzi wapafupifupi ndi munthu wapadera.

Kodi zoluma zimapambana bwanji mitima ya anthu?

1. kukongola... Kuyeserera kumawonetsa kuti azimayi otere amasamala za mawonekedwe awo. Zodzoladzola, tsitsi, manicure pamlingo wapamwamba kwambiri, chithunzicho chimaganiziridwa ngakhale pang'ono kwambiri. Zovuta nthawi zonse zimatsata chiwerengerocho. Yesetsani kupeza bambo yemwe angalimbane ndi mtsikana wovala bwino atavala diresi lokongola.
2. Ulemu... Palibe ngakhale pang'ono yomwe ingalole kuti mnyamatayo adzichepetse. Atsikana otere samakhululukira kubera, amakonda kusunga nthawi pamasiku ndikuyika wolakwayo m'malo mwake. Malinga ndi hule, ubale waulemu ndi chitsimikizo cha kukhazikika pachibwenzi.
3. Zosiyanasiyana... Akazi okoma mtima ndi okondeka amabala amuna. Khalidwe logwirizana pazaka zambiri silidzatsitsimutsa ubale. Izi zili mkati mwamikangano, zochitika zansanje, zoyipa komanso ziwonetsero. Popanda izi, mayiyu sateteza malingaliro ake.
4. Luntha... Zingatanthauze kuti anyamata amaona kukongola kukhala mwayi waukulu kwa mtsikana. Izi sizoona. Oimira kugonana kwamphamvu amadziwa kuti ndibwino ndi kukongola kokha koyambirira kwaubwenzi, pomwe kulingalira ndi malingaliro zili mumthunzi wa chikondi ndikuzizwa.
5. Kupumula... Chimbudzi chimasiyana ndi mkazi wodzichepetsa pakakhala zopinga pakuwonetsa zakugonana komanso ukazi. Ichi ndiye chifukwa chachikulu chomwe amuna amachitira chigololo. Mtsikana wotentha, wathupi ndiwofunika, ndipo mawonekedwe ake alibe kanthu.

Buledi amawoneka ngati mkazi wangwiro yemwe ali woyenera kukhala ndi banja lalitali komanso losangalala. Chifukwa chiyani, ndiye kuti azimayi achichepere omwe amafotokozedwa kuti ndi hule nthawi zambiri amakhala osungulumwa ndipo sangapeze amuna? Yankho lake ndi losavuta.

Ndizovuta kwambiri kukhala ndi munthu woteroyo nthawi zonse. Gawo laling'ono lazochitikazo lipindulitsa thupi lamwamuna, koma kupsinjika kopitilira muyeso kumabweretsa kukhumudwa, kugona tulo, ndi matenda akulu. Mkazi wamphamvu ayenera kufanana ndi zinthu zakuthupi, ndipo si amuna onse omwe ali ndi ndalama zabwino.

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